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Review & Giveaway: Not My Jesus

This book was given to me (no money was exchanged) for my honest opinion and that’s what you’ll get! I am not an affiliate and receive no money from this or any purchases.

Warning: this book is not for the faint of heart. If that front cover doesn’t get that message across, nothing will! 😂

I began explaining the book to my first-grader (mainly because of the cigarette) and he wound up taking over saying, “Plus, Jesus was brown, with brown eyes because He was Jewish!” #HomeschoolWin

Ever heard the hashtag #NotMyPresident? If not, you’re probably not reading my blog and therefore I don’t need to explain😅. If you have, then you know that many have voiced their negative opinions of our current president by tagging their statements with #NotMyPresident. Bob Fabey, an Anglican priest, plays off this notorious hashtag with his book titled Not My Jesus.

This book is not about politics. It’s not about hipsters, cell phones, smoking, nor homosexuality. It is about who Jesus is not and who He is. More importantly, it’s about who Jesus is … to you!

I recently asked, on my Facebook page, “Who is YOUR Jesus?” These are some of the responses I received:

“The Way the Truth and the Life, never changing, never failing….. I do have to say “Your” Jesus…. is The Jesus… He can’t be changed to fit my needs or my wants/desires.” – Dawn L.

“My Deliverer! I’m so blessed that my Jesus thought enough of even me to sacrifice Himself and I will do my best to live my life to honor Him. Thank God for grace!” – Sabrina M.

“Interesting and difficult prompt. I would say that “my” Jesus, the one I normally think of, is less passionate, less humble, less concerned about me, less confrontational, and less interesting than the Jesus that I encounter in reading, meditating, and praying.” – Patrick M.

“My deliverer and strong tower, yet my precious God who holds me in every instance of my life. He never fails and is always there when I need him, gently leading and guiding. I love my Jesus!” – Sue G.

“Love.” – Victoria R.

“My Jesus is a radiant light that guides me on my path. He’s my savior, my redeemer, and His love knows no bounds. Even when I’ve gone astray, his mercy and love pulls me back in. ” – Tiffany R.

“Creator – through Him everything was made that is made. Healer – by His stripes we are healed. Savior – no one comes to the Father but by Me. Redeemer – full of grace and truth (John‬ ‭1:14‬). He has redeemed me from the bondage of sin and given me life everlasting and joy unspeakable and full of glory.” – David M.

For myself, Jesus is so much. He is an incomparable friend, yet one that holds me accountable. He is grace and mercy, yet soul-jarring conviction. He is healing and provision, yet also guidance and wisdom.

Fabey starts right out the gate, grabbing you by the ears, describing many people’s versions of who Jesus is. He even references the now infamous Talladega Nights prayer many of us know where Ricky prefers his Jesus to be 8 pound, 6 ounce, newborn infant Jesus.

He goes on, after describing everything from Santa Jesus and black Jesus to judgmental Jesus and blonde Jesus, to share some “Jesus tweets.” Many of these “tweets” will be shocking to a lot of readers. What’s sad is that they should not be. Because Fabey is doing nothing more than quoting Jesus from the Bible.🤷🏻‍♀️

Fabey challenges his readers:

“We frequently see Jesus as of looking through a keyhole, unable or unwilling to see a bigger picture. In fact, the sad truth is we make Him out to be what we want. In short, He looks like us. He carries our wants, wishes, ideas, and leanings with a spiritual spin. This gives us the divine right to feel, act, or think the way we do because Jesus did it that way. He is used to justify our biases and, in turn, becomes nothing more than a caricature of the flavor of the day – our preferred flavor.”

After reading this book – a book full of humor, sarcasm, bluntness, reality, and truth – I was left with the question, “Who is this book intended for?” Is this book for mellenials, the confused, new in Christ, people looking for a laugh? After all, Fabey goes off the rails if you compare his book to mainstream Christian books. I can’t imagine anyone of my grandparents snuggling up to this one. He doesn’t mince words nor does he cater to sensitivities. So… I simply emailed Fabey and asked.

His response:

“I am targeting the millennial crowd. Especially the de-churched.”

Honestly, his response gave me a lot more peace about this book. Millennials (many but not all) have developed during a time of segregation. There is now segregation of thought, belief, feelings. Fabey actually addresses this in his book and how detrimental it can and will be. This is one of the points that he makes that I wholeheartedly agree with – that at one time we could simply agree to disagree. Now, if we disagree we can’t be friends. We’ll take our ball and go home. No, it’s not as simple as that but in some ways…it is.

For instance, it’s very difficult to understand how one person can know that there is a living being inside of someone else and be OK with the killing of it; yet, if I shut down all dialogue with them how will I be any different from those that would simply turn a blind eye? Am I not to open up a conversation with those people on how precious that life is, possibly changing their minds into a direction that is not my perspective but that of Christ’s?

He talks about the power of “Othering.” Othering is when we have a “Oh…them 😒” mentality.

Fabey, I believe, is trying to redirect a generation from the “My Jesus is okay with me just as I am” mentality to the truth of Christ and who He was (and is) that day He met a woman at the well.

Let’s be honest: Christ called her out. She was living a life many would call a Jerry Springer life and Jesus called a spade a spade. He didn’t leave it there, though. He gave her hope and a reason to change her life. That is who Jesus really is – He is truth even when it hurts but He’s also grace and love. The problem, as Fabey points out, is that many want one without the other – truth and judgment (without grace) for their oppressors, or grace and love (without truth) for themselves. That’s simply not who Jesus is.

So that being said, if it takes Fabey being somewhat controversial or “in your face” to get a dialogue going about who Jesus really is, then who am I to say that his delivery is shocking or insensitive?

In all, I wouldn’t say that I disagree with Fabey. I would say we share different perspectives about a few things and we would certainly differ in our delivery. I can imagine that we would have a very colorful and interesting conversation over coffee if he and I were to sit together.

I found myself disagreeing with Fabey, or at least the way he conveyed something. Some of his views and opinions are pretty extreme to me. Yet, many times I found myself saying, “Yes! Exactly!”

One such example is when Fabey references Matthew 13:38 where Jesus is calling people weeds that can potentially choke things or other people out. They – weeds – grow in the wrong place. If you’re in the wrong place you’re a potential problem. You need to know where you belong otherwise you are going to “clog up the works.”

His book takes you from who you may think Jesus is, through a journey of how dangerous misinterpretation can be and onto the promise and potential of who you – and this world can be – if we can grasp who Jesus truly is.

I would agree with Fabey that this book is for millennials and the de-churched. I would add that this is for the prideful, somewhat close minded, those that are absolutely convinced that their mind cannot be changed. This book is for the Christian and the unbeliever. I would also say that this book is for people who simply like to see different perspectives. This book is for groups who like to just talk about Jesus and how this generation, or world, relates to Him today.

*I would probably not give this book to someone brand new in Christ as many of the topics are for people who are already at one extreme or the other, not someone who is in a transitional period with God.

There is a lot of information packed into a very small book. This is not just a book of flash and fancy but a book that is referencing who the messiah is, how important He really is, why Jesus is the way that He is.

If you read this book, I cannot wait to hear your take on it! I would definitely say that this is a book club book. This is a conversation starter to be sure. With such topics as, “Who is your Jesus?” “Which generation should we turn back to?” “Are our Jesuses the same?” “What is truly a zealot?” I could go on!

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The Immorality of Worldy “Love”

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I have had too many people I care deeply about that have been betrayed by someone they gave a piece, or all, of their heart to. I apologize if there is any confusion in my thoughts here. I wrote this kind of on the fly. There is no judgment within my thoughts, only love. If you know me, you know that’s true. Also, I’ve cast my assumptions aside. I hope you have as well and I pray you receive this post in the spirit in which it is intended – for those who have messed up but want to save their marriage.

The way I see it, there are two inextricable ingredients involved with a couple in which one of the two is cheating:

  1. Spiritual Death; and
  2. lack of or decreased self-value.

“Spiritual death” sounds so dark, ominous, and final. It is all of that… except final. The Bible says…

“Flee from sexual immorality… do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. ” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

The fact is…

“It’s your sins that have cut you off from God. Because of your sins, He has turned away and will not listen anymore.” (Isaiah 59:2)

What do we learn from these two verses?

  1. Sexual immorality – as with any sin – is cause for you to “FLEE!”
  2. Your body is a temple. It’s not only home to God since you asked Him to reside within you; but, it is of value!
  3. You are not your own. This is very important. The decisions you make are not yours to be making. You gave yourself to God. You were bought with the price of Christ’s crucifixion. So, you should find peace and happiness in the knowledge that if you stick with His plan you will be loved and cared for. You will be happy.
  4. Sin is the only thing that separates you from God.

I couldn’t sit there and watch my children do horrible acts that will ultimately destroy them and possibly the people around them. I couldn’t watch it and God won’t watch it. If God is the Holy Spirit and He is “the way the truth and the life,” sin has separated you from Him, and He will “turn away and not listen anymore” then you have experienced Spiritual death. Life has been removed from you – that only leaves death.

So, to review: If we’re assuming both people knew God in the beginning, now 1 person has forgotten that they are not their own but God’s – that they are of great value considering what Christ voluntarily went through to purchase them; and 1 person has allowed themselves to allow the temptation of their flesh – sin – to inundate their heart to the point that God has turned away. They may think they are going to church and living a good Christian life but:

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“But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them” (Ephesians 5:13)

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“For everything that is hidden will eventually be brought into the open, and every secret will be brought to light.” (Mark 4:22)

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At least FOUR TIMES God’s Word tells us that nothing will stay hidden for long. They can show up at Church, say they are a Christian, say they love their wife or husband, kiss their children, and go on through life as if they are Christian Saints but God knows, most likely their spouse knows, and not-so-surprisingly their children usually have at least an idea of the truth.

But what about the spouse who doesn’t see their value? Well, the actions of the cheating spouse only make matters worse of course in that department – the spouse continues to devalue themselves because they have tied their worth to this broken person rather than to God, their Creator.

To draw a crass illustration it’s a little like a bulimic asking an anorexic if they look good.

God’s Word has already illustrated that a person who is being sexually immoral does not know the value of their own bodies, themselves, or that they are to glorify – through God – their body.” Yet, that’s what we do – we expect a sick person to make us better. If they were capable of that, and we were on the outside looking in (separate from our own emotions) and using our common sense, we would say, “Hey, they’re just going to make me sicker!”

It becomes an ongoing round-robin of sickness, shared and built to the point of epidemic. You may have noticed I’m not broaching the subject of why a person cheats. That’s because there are many reasons and not one of them is a reflection of the person who is being cheated on but rather it’s a symptom of a deep sickness in the cheater – a Spiritual death that has occurred, as I mentioned earlier.

The fact is this – we must make ourselves strong in Christ. Every single day there is a message for each of us in God’s word.

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” (2 Corinthians 4:16)

You don’t need the world to empower you, your friends to empower you, even yourself to empower you. God has given you power. You only need to take it.

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“My message and my preaching were not in persuasive words of wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power, so that your faith would not rest on the wisdom of men, but on the power of God.” (2 Corinthians 2:5)

It’s easy to become dependent upon the person you invested your heart in, even moreso if you were meant to be “one.” Ultimately, though, we’re only supposed to be dependent upon one and if we each are dependent upon God then, subsequently and beautifully, we can actually, SAFELY, depend upon one another!

If each new day each of you are dying to self and living for Christ, you can not help but to love one another because the Spirit within you will be like beautiful harmony to the Spirit within your spouse.

Forget everything the world ever told you about love. It’s a complete crock. Love is work. It’s beautiful and it’s a gift from God. This is what love is not: easy, sex, butterflies, lost, fallen out of, easily traded in, weak, or just not enough.

I assure you that love is not easy because anything worth having is worth working for. It’s work! It takes time. It takes effort. You don’t fall out of love – you make a decision to turn around and walk away.

Sex is sex and love is love. When you choose to truly love someone and they you – then sex is something way more than you can comprehend because, more than merely being flesh, it’s a transference of trust, love, and fulfillment.

Love is not the butterflies doing backflips in your stomach but rather that moment when your heart stirs and your mind awakens because this person just tore away all superficiality and prayed through the glass ceiling for you!

Love is not the butterflies doing backflips in your stomach but rather that moment when your heart stirs and your mind awakens because this person just tore away all superficiality and prayed through the glass ceiling for you; it’s when life has gone straight to hell in a handbasket yet you know you can brave any storm because God is with you and He gave you the best friend you could ever imagine going through it with. Love is not something that is so easily shared.

You can love everyone like Christ loves but you don’t find yourself in love with two people. Christ only has one bride – the church. The church only has one groom – Christ. Christ is not torn for his love of the saints and his love of the sinners. No man nor woman is in love with two people. And, “love just wasn’t enough” is a blatant Hollywood lie. Love is ALWAYS enough. If A=B, then B=A, right? So, if God is love, then love is God. And, I assure you, God IS enough.

True God-anointed love can see you through heartache, cheating, confusion, sickness, and even death. If two people truly love Christ, run after Him with all of their hearts and minds, and they love each other, they cannot help but to succeed. It won’t always be easy. Remember, I said love is work. Remember, it takes both to do said work, both to run after CHrist. They will survive then, thrive even, and become a light in a dark place for other couples that hope to find true happiness in this dark, truly lonely, world.

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Iowa says, “NO” to killing babies. So why isn’t this news everywhere?!

“Legislation making it illegal for a doctor to perform an abortion in Iowa once a fetal heartbeat is detected won Senate approval Wednesday as a first step toward what many see as a legal battle aimed at overturning the 1973 landmark U.S. Supreme Court decision legalizing abortion.

Senators approved Senate File 2281 by a 30-20 margin.

The measure would bar a physician from performing an abortion when tests determine a heartbeat is present, unless a medical emergency exists that warrants the procedure. Violation would subject a doctor to a Class D felony, carrying up to five years in prison and a $7,500 fine. There would be no penalty for the woman.” The Gazette said.

While Sen. Amy Sinclair, R-Allerton, floor manager of the bill said, “This bill is the logical beginning point for all of civil governance,” Sen. Joe Bolkcom, D-Iowa City struck back by saying, “It is time for Republican politicians to stop playing politics and stop using your positions of power to harass and disrespect girls and women. Enough is enough.”

So, we know where most Republicans stand on the issue of abortion just as we know where most Democrats stand on the issue of abortion. There’s always the select few that feel different even though they are part of that party. I’m not even going to talk about that.

For just a moment allow me to vent.

When I open my Google app, the news it suggests for me (and yes I know all about preferences and algorithms – I am a blogger) I see:

1. “The Google App’s New iMessage Extension is Pretty Great”

2. “The story of the internet, as told by Know Your Meme”

3. Winter Storm Quinn

and more… yet NOTHING about this landmark decision!

When I go to ABC News online, I see…

1. “2nd nor’easter bearing down on East Coast days after deadly storm”

2. “Democrats, women candidates score big in Texas”

3. “Trump reopens seemingly settled video-game debate”

When I go to FOX News online, I see…

1. “Pelosi slams California ICE raid as ‘unjust and cruel,’ amid outcry over mayor’s tipoff to immigrants”

2. “Tammy Bruce: California chaos — Unchallenged liberalism leaves homelessness, drug abuse, garbage in its wake”

3. “Nikolas Cruz’s jail records reveal details of gunman’s behavior in days after Florida school shooting”

And I could go on. Literally I am not seeing this landmark Iowa decision anywhere!

So, my question to you all is, “Why is this news not everywhere?”

Why is this news not every…where? Why, if we have a Republican president and this is a major issue for Republicans (and many Independents such as myself), is this not all over the news, all over the Internet, and constantly showing up in your newsfeed? Why did I have to read about it in a Christian wives and moms Facebook group? Why was it a post that was typed out by the poster and not even a newsfeed that she was sharing?!

Does the nation not really care about this?

Is this not something to cheer about – the saving of thousands of baby’s lives?

Does the news not want you to know about this? Any news outlet regardless of which way they slant?

I want to hear from you because I’m at my wit’s end over here.

At this point, I truly believe that every news outlet is bought by someone. I filed as an Independent because even at the age of 18 I knew that I didn’t want any particular party to know which way I was going to vote; and my primary party is the party that follows God’s word. There isn’t a party for that so I filed as an Independent. This has allowed me to have a truly unbiased view. I don’t have a particular news outlet that I watch. I do my own research. Having been a paralegal for nearly a decade I know where to look, I know when something smells funny, and I understand legislation.

What I don’t understand is news such as this not being viral within an hour of it happening. Can someone please explain to me why a Hollywood couple getting a divorce propels millions to tweet about it within half an hour… but thousands of baby’s lives being saved, infanticide being abolished, and the torture, dismemberment, and murder of the innocent in Iowa – a thing of which should have never happened in the first place – now no longer happening ISN’T EVEN IN MY NEWSFEED?!

Short story:

For those of you that don’t know, when I was two months shy of being 18, I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t know anything about Planned Parenthood. All I knew was that some people went there to get birth control. So, I went there to get a pregnancy test. When I was told that I was pregnant, I was scared, not as surprised as one would’ve thought, and in awe. I was not in tears. I was not in the fetal position. I did not need to be consoled. The woman across the desk from me proceeded to try to talk me into my “options.” At 17 years of age, I immediately turned into mama bear. I looked that woman dead in the face and said, “If your ‘options’ include killing my baby, think again.” And I walked out of there.

So, I guess this topic is a little closer to my heart than others. Somehow, though, I can’t wrap my brain around why the killing and torture of babies – a thing of which has been proven – is not close to everyone’s heart in this nation, IN THIS WORLD!

So, unlike my usual well thought out, outlined blog posts that I usually post… This one is more of a vent, a question, and a prayer. Forgive me for my not standing on formality today.

If you are a believer, please come together with me – in one mind, one heart – and pray this prayer with me:

God:

Forgive us for not comprehending the miracle, the magnificence, of any creation that you have made in history. But certainly forgive us for not comprehending the miracle that is life. Forgive us believers that have not fought tooth, tongue, and toenail to save the lives of individuals that had a purpose and a plan. Help us to find what each one of us needs to change this horrific practice in our nation, in the world. Expose within us the things that we need to change and shed light on where we need to go, the things we need to say, the things we need to do in our communities. Help us to be better warriors in your army. Raise up Mosess, Davids, and Elijahs! Teach every mother and father how to raise our children to be world changers and earth shakers.

Bind up Satan. His reign of murdering those that could change the tide of the direction this world is going in is over! We ask that you throw out every elected representative that would contribute to the murder of our children by either vote or choosing to not vote. We ask that you open the eyes and the ears of every believer and motivate them to act. We ask, we pray, we even beg that a revival would sweep across this nation. We ask that this nation be reborn under You. We lost our way but You are our True North. We are like the Israelites lost in the desert – the promised land is just in sight with an act of legislation such as this, yet the few are running the many. We ask that you bind up the squeaky voice of the few and you raise up a loud clatter from your followers, your believers, your people. We ask that you help us to save ourselves, our children, our future. Let the Holy Spirit, like a fire, burn inside of each and everyone of your children this day.

The men and women that we read about in the Bible were men and women of action. They were men and women that were called by you and followed. Help us to be this generation’s Esther, Moses, Elisha.

Help us. Hear our cry, today, oh Father! None but you can eradicate evil with your righteousness. You are mighty and mighty to save. You are a promise keeper and you are God of all creation. You are our deliver even right now when the world seems to reign under evil. You are Alpha and Omega, beginning and the end. Simply put, you are I AM. Nothing stands in your way and nothing can defeat you.