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I get by with a LITTLE help from my friends

It’s really hard when you don’t feel supported, especially by those that you love the most. They’re the first ones we run to for validation or an “Atta boy!” For some of us, we can just let it roll off of our backs. Those tend to be the most confident of us. Then there are the others, like myself, who for whatever reason seek validation almost desperately because we see all of our own faults and weaknesses. Our humility easily dips into levels of insecurity and rather than seeking validation from the only one that truly knows our heart, we seek it from those around us.That’s a dangerous place to be for one’s psyche and sense of value.

In Luke 4:24, Christ said, “Truly I tell you, no prophet is accepted in his hometown.”

A prophet by definition is “a person regarded as an inspired teacher or proclaimer of the will of God.” Hopefully that should be all Christians. At the very least, we should each be “a proclaimer of the will of God.” After all, that is God’s great commission to us – that we share the gospel around the world. So, this passage applies to us all.

I would love to tell you that the Bible clearly states here that Christ is saying don’t expect them to support you in anything from singing to becoming a mechanical engineer. Unfortunately, I can’t. I can tell you that sometimes in the word there is a spirit behind something being said. So, I can say to you that in the spirit of what Christ said here, you can probably expect the same reception from your own family and close friends when you make any kind of life change that is out of the norm for what they have pigeonholed you for. Each and everyone of us draw a box around the people that are in our lives and we pat ourselves on the back for believing that we know them when in reality very few probably know that person at all.

Consider yourself for a moment. Ask yourself this: how many people truly know me, my heart, my soul, my motivations? I would venture a guess that you would probably only come up with about three people or less. So, knowing that, let’s be forgiving of those around us; and, let’s apply that knowledge to ourselves and recall it the next time someone in our lives appears to be trying to break out of that box that we drew around them.


Sidebar: This is a great example as to why I don’t socialize with nor attend reunions of my high school acquaintances. I have nothing against any of them. The plain simple fact is I am not who I was in high school so they don’t know me. We don’t have that luxury with our family – to simply cut them out. The Bible dictates to us that we have certain requirements as children, as blood, to those that are our family. This is not to be a burden, but a blessing. While it may feel as if it were a luxury to be able to cut someone out of your life, you’re doing yourself a great disservice and possibly removing yourself as a blessing to that person. With the blessing of family, though, comes the simple realization that many of them will always only see you as you once were – not as you are now. When Christ was speaking in Nazareth, there was a murmuring, “Isn’t that Joseph’s son?” That’s all He was, or could ever be, to the prideful people who had placed Him in that box.


Now, I say none of this to leave us all in a lurch – believing that there is no one on our side. I am a firm believer or that if God said it that settles it. And in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 it says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.” So, here we have the word of God telling us that we are better than when we are alone. Logic would then prevail and tell me that there are others of like-mind that will go on my journey with me. On any given day. I may have one person with me…just one. I may have 1000 people on a blessed day. I may find that I only have one person that walks with me on my journey for the rest of my days. 


That then leaves us with the real question: what is the purpose of my journey? If the purpose of my journey is to gain the respect and adoration of those around me, then I should go ahead and prepare myself for failure. Christ did not go to Nazareth seeking validation. Christ went to Nazareth for the people, not himself. Throughout the New Testament, you will find several times where men of God when into a town and were not received and they were either told to or they already knew to dust off their feet and go to the next town. So, if the purpose of your journey is to be pleasing to God, to do his will, then do exactly as Christ did. He never preached to those that didn’t want to receive it. He was never an uninvited guest. He never sought validation nor adoration from anyone but from the Father. Christ had thousands and thousands of followers, and now billions, and he never had a social media account.

34 thoughts on “I get by with a LITTLE help from my friends”

  1. I agree with the previous comment -not everyone needs to know who I ‘truly’ am, only people who I trust will be there through the good and bad are worth it!

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  2. Growing up I had this notion that being around as many people as possible would make me happy. Growing up Ive realized I hate people and am perfectly happy sticking with my 4-5 close friends xD THEY GET ME

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  3. I don’t think that we can expect others to know the real ‘us’ when we don’t even know the real ‘us’. How many of us have taken the time to seriously look at who we are and what motivates us? I would suggest only a few enlightened individuals in the whole existence of mankind have reached that plane.
    All of us are motivated by self-gain that is a fact. We wouldn’t even step a foot forward in any direction, were it not to get something for ourselves. To truly give and put others before ourselves, is not something we as a society do and I believe that the 9-5 life we lead and the time we dedicate to the things that we do in life are a distraction from this.

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  4. Sometimes we just really can’t do it alone. We has humans need a support system, so I’m glad that you found yours!

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  5. I always like to have my true friends nearby. Unfortunately I’ve encountered ones that turned out to be fake. So it’s always nice when you find the people who truly get you and who are there when you need them.

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  6. After college, I found out who my real and true friends were. It was not friend but only a friend. The rest have never spoken to me ever again. I am blessed to at least have a friend who I can rely on!

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  7. I don’t think our purpose is to gain respect and adoration from our peers, rather help and support those around us without expecting anything in return. Humans are instinctually sociable creatures – I think that’s how we’ve managed to stay alive for so long. 🙂

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  8. It is crazy to think how we think validation comes from social media but there could be someone like Jesus who you say never sought validation but had a following. A great point to make x

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  9. I have thought a lot about what it is that we should be seeking. And truthfully to know and be known is among the biggest of the things. For those who know us as much as one can know us and love us anyway are the most important people in our lives.

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  10. If we ourselves do not know who we really are, then I don’t think there will be anybody else who would. I guess at the end of the day, when we don’t expect so much from others and just concentrate on finding our own happiness without hurting anyone, being kind to everybody and just being grateful for each and every small thing, then I believe that we will attract the people that will stand by us no matter what.

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  11. I can count the people that I’m close to on one hand. I think it’s just who I am. I would rather have people around me who I can trust and celebrate life with instead of knowing a lot of people who would abandon me in the end.

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    1. What a horrible thing to experience. I was always an advocate for the kids being “picked on.” I’m so sorry you went through that. One of God’s greatest commandments is to love thy neighbor. I can only imagine how God may deal with them and their hearts for that behavior. I pray your life is one of honor and great respect, that you are blessed and have joy most all your days. ❤️

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  12. Jesus was pretty transparent to his disciples. I have recently been reaching out to my high school friends and it helps me remember who I was and how far I have come.

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  13. I am not at all the same person I was ten years ago in high school. Even now though only a handful of people know the real me and I’m glad for that. I enjoy the company I’ve surrounded myself with and I will continue trying to do better about letting people venture outside of the boxes I’ve built in my mind for them. We all need genuine support and love and none of us can say where God is leading another.

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  14. I totally resonate with this. We tend to live a bit outside of the box from what my family would expect. They don’t hide their disappointment or questions. We are most likely getting ready to do something that will really make some heads spin, but we feel it is what God is calling us to. We just take encouragement in the fact that we are following God.

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  15. I have a difficult time cutting people out of my life, because I never want to not use an opportunity that God might send my way with them. I may not reach out constantly but I am always open to opportunitiies that God might put in my path, even with people from my past that I wasn’t fond of that weren’t fond of me?

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  16. If we can learn to get our validation from God Himself (who God says we are), then we are not so reliant on the opinions of those around us. I always try to build up the people around me because there is so much criticism and so little affirmation in our lives!

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  17. I have been blessed to have a best friend since I was three and she was four. We are now 55 and 56 years old. It never mattered where we were we always have stayed in touch. We have moved to different states, had our babies and even our hysterectomy together. I had the honor of leading her to Christ and have seen the ripple effect in her family as her husbands and sons came to Christ. Trust me she is precious to me, but no one has been more loyal or sweeter than Jesus.

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  18. It is so easy to throw ourselves pity parties and think about how alone we are, but like you said, even Jesus Himself was ostracized and misunderstood. Yet He had/has His followers that mean all the world to him and made it worthwhile. It’s the same for us – the world may judge us and look down upon us, but we have Christ’s church to lift us up and encourage us as often as we come together!

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  19. Only a few really know me, where there is mutual encouragement and fellowship. These are people, who know me so well that they are willing to say the hard things that I may initially resist. These relationships wouldn’t exist without considering the other person’s needs more important than self.

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